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He said that he liked what I'd written because it was about what I enjoyed, rather than what I didn't want." Don't use photos from 10 years ago.
It's fine to put your best foot forwards, but remember that you will actually meet some of these people and they're going to notice if you look nothing like your pictures.
' are perfectly valid, but have a horrible knack of attracting responses from exactly the sort of people you're hoping to avoid.
The responsibility for knocking back chancers is on you; putting this stuff in your profile won't ward them off, and can make you sound a bit glum or grouchy to everyone else.
"I thought my profile was great, but looking back I can see where I was going wrong.
I was putting out subtle signals that I couldn't see at the time that were saying 'I know I'm unloveable'." "I met my fiance online.
But do put photos up: profiles with photos get a lot more interest.
And put up a few: dressed up, dressed down, indoors, outdoors, formal, relaxed. You don't have to be amazing looking to present well: have a nice photo taken, wear fashionable clothes etc.
"I'm 48, I can see through the bullshit that blinded me when I was younger, and I'm definitely calling the shots." Hard data shows that men tend to reach out to women who are younger than they are, so it's understandable that some women are tempted to lie about their age.
There will be someone who loves the sound of that; don't pretend to be a gym-bunny or hard-drinking socialite.
"I'm over 40, not very pretty and I still get proper messages in amongst the one-night-stand trawlers and idiots.
Dating is not just about you anymore; it is about your kids and their feelings as well!
Don't bring your dates home until you are sure that there is potential for a long-term relationship with the person that you are seeing. Make sure your kids know that you are dating but that you won't force them to meet anyone until you are sure that you trust the person enough to introduce everyone.